Stigmas That Need Demolishing

Hi everyone!
So my mind has been running like crazy lately. I believe I've reached a higher level of thinking and for that, I am so grateful. I've been thinking of new ways to combat stigmas that I will undoubtedly face as a black womyn. (WoMYN; is a non traditional spelling of women. It's used by modern feminists to avoid ending the word with "men".) We are plagued with numerous stereotypes and not only have I decided that I won't fall victim to them, I am taking it upon myself to debunk them all together.

That is a heavy weight, I know. But what is life, if not adventure and challenge.

Okay. Let's debunk the notion that womyn NEED a man to be complete. PUHLEASE!
"What's a Queen without a King?"
A QUEEN. A GODDESS. Whole and complete in her own being.
Sayings like this argue that womyn are not an entire entity until she meets a man who will come along save her. Then and only then will her life and her Self be complete.
Trash that Notion!
We are Queens far before we meet our partners and we will shine as Queens far after they leave. Stop teaching little girls that they need a man for their lives to hold value. That is damaging, cut it out.

Can we also stop telling girls that boys are mean to them because they like them!
I don't think parents realize how damaging that is. You are teaching little girls that pain and aggression are synonymous with love and beauty. So yes, the third grade school boy may be mean to your daughter because he likes her. But what happens when she grows up and the high school boy ignores her, when her college boyfriend pushes her, when her fiance slaps the smile from her skin? She has grown up thinking that these actions means he loves her, so she stays. She stays in these unhealthy relationships because that is all shes been taught.
Trash that Notion!
As parents, caregivers, mentors, big sisters, whatever our role may be...we have a responsibility to teach our girls self love and self value. Be careful of the language you choose.

This one really grinds my gears, and I know there will be Aunties and Godmothers who disagree, but there is NO SUCH THING as ladylike. That is a social construct that some man came up with, and we have been passing it through generations for centuries.
Womyn don't have to be petite, to be any more womyn.
Womyn don't have to shave, to be any more womyn.
Womyn don't have to wear make up, to be any more womyn.
Womyn don't have to be quiet and meek and gentle, to be any more womyn.
Trash that Notion!
YOU ARE ALREADY WOMYN ENOUGH. You don't have to try to morph who you are into these stereotypes the world tries to shove down your throat. You are beautiful, in all that you are..in all that you choose to be.
And again, as sisters we HAVE to stop shaming our sisters for their choices. Believe it or not, what another sister does with her body, does not effect you. So let her live and shine, and I promise you will do the same.

These are just a few Stigmas That Need Demolishing. There are plenty more that push my buttons, but I can literally write a novel..
(Which is something I'm really looking into, so stay tuned.)
We each have a role. My role is my voice. My tool, my weapon, my arsenal is my voice. I ask you what is your role? Will you continue to survive in this misogynist world, full of angry stereotypes, or will you join me in debunking them?
Sister and Brothers what is you role?
Start talking and Trash that Notion!

Comment some other stigmas below. I really want to talk to you guys!
As always, thank you So SO much for reading. Writing and sharing makes me feel so happy and free. I feel like I am Home, here.
Until next time,
Stay Happy, Stay Healthy.
~Naturallykbiggie